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  • Writer: Mark Alan Williams
    Mark Alan Williams
  • Jun 28, 2020
  • 7 min read

Updated: Jun 29, 2020

Today, Sunday, June 28, 2020, is the 116th anniversary of this Norge disaster. My great-grandfather Eskild Eskildsen was on that ship and could have easily lost his life. Here’s part 1 of the story, (reposted from a few years ago when I wrote it):


Part 1 | My Heroic Great Grandpa And The Pre-Titanic

Not many people have heard of the SS Norge disaster of 1904. Some 635 people died in the shipwreck—the worst Danish civil disaster of all time.

The SS Norg

Ironically, if lessons had been learned regarding safety and survival on the SS Norge, we might never have even heard of the Titanic. My great-grandfather Eskild Alfred Eskildsen, from Denmark, was a passenger on the Norge.


He left for America, leaving his wife and six children behind at the last minute. This was partly due to the fact that his wife Agnes was pregnant with my grandma Cecilia. If she and the other children had gone, they likely would have been lost as only 30 of the 240 children on board survived.

Eskild Alfred Eskildsen my great grandfather

The ship went aground near a tiny islet called Rockall, 280 miles off the coast of Great Britain, on June 28, 1904. When the ship hit the Rockall reef, it sank in only 20 minutes. People quickly knew that the ship was sinking. Many panicked, sobbed, and fell to their knees praying.


Rockall Islet

But rather than panic, Eskild began to do things that were helpful and selfless, if not heroic.


Here are some lessons we can learn from him that might help us to be heroes when a Titanic sized disaster strikes:


ONE: Put Others First


Instead of trying to board one of the lifeboats, Eskild helped others board them. When all lifeboats were launched, he stayed on the Norge assisting others. He helped several women put on their lifebelts. When there were no more lifebelts, he gave women wooden benches to cling to. While other crew members were saving their own necks, he helped others.


When it became apparent there was nothing left he could do and the ship was nearly under the waves, Eskild dove into the frigid water. Then he swam out past where others could reach lifeboats, especially women with their water-soaked garments. Only then did he seek safety in a lifeboat.


What would you or I do in such a horrible circumstance? It’s hard to say until the moment comes. We would probably live that experience the way we live our lives—either me first or others first.


Heroes put others first—in disaster and in daily life.


TWO: Don’t Give Up


Eskild swam out and reached lifeboat #4 which had only 19 onboard and a capacity of 28. But when he tried to climb aboard, the first officer who had taken charge beat his grasping hands with an oar. Just like the Titanic disaster years later, people feared that allowing others refuge would jeopardize their own survival.


But despite the beating he didn’t let go. When the officer turned his attention to piloting the boat, others helped pull Eskild aboard. His fingers never worked right for the rest of his life.


How many times do we give up just before a breakthrough? How many times have we let go of a dream, a goal, or a vision and allowed it to sink into oblivion when the going got tough?


Heroes don’t give up, not matter how difficult things become.



In 2004, the 100th anniversary of the disaster, a comprehensive book was written titled Titanic’s Predecessor: The S/S Norge Disaster of 1904. There are quite a few references to my great grandpa in the book.


In my next article you can read what happened next. Click HERE for Part 2.

 

Part 2 | My Heroic Great Grandpa And The Pre-Titanic


In my last post I shared about my great-grandfather Eskild Alfred Eskildsen’s attempt to come to America on the SS Norge in 1904. Tragically, it sank in middle of the Atlantic Ocean. Of the nearly 800 passengers on board, he was one of only 160 who survived.


Onboard the Norge

As the SS Norge sank, he managed to swim out to lifeboat #4 which was only just over half full. Read Part 1 for the heroic story of his survival to that point.


Surviving in the lifeboat is another chapter in his remarkable story. They were far out to sea and had no navigation equipment. The men were organized to row in three shifts of four hours at a time. They headed in what they hoped was a north easterly direction, back towards Europe. The others lay on top of each other trying desperately to get warm. It was bitterly cold. No one was dressed for the frigid conditions. Some had no shoes or head covering.


They only had provisions enough for two biscuits and a little water each day. Prayer was very helpful in giving hope and not losing their sanity. Days wore on in monotonous agony. By the fourth day, they had just two drops of water and one biscuit each. On the sixth and seventh days they had absolutely nothing to eat.


There was one infant on the lifeboat, a one year old. Her continuous crying was heart wrenching. Her father, Ole Eid, became frantic; he tried giving her a few drops of saltwater, but that immediately made her condition worse. So in utter desperation he cut his arm and allowed the baby to suck on his blood.

Ole Eid

There was also a teenager on the lifeboat, Rolf Vaagaasar. When he thought he could not bear his thirst any longer, he used his hands to scoop up seawater and drink. But the result was near insanity. His fellow passengers tied him up to keep him from taking his life.


Rolf Vaagaasar

On the seventh day it began raining heavily. The sail was lowered and used to catch a bucket of water. Everyone agreed it was an answer to their prayers.


Here are a couple of lessons I see in this story of survival after the sinking of the Norge:


ONE: Prayer Helps


Communication with God through prayer is a life-sustaining gift from the Almighty.


Of course He is not obligated to grant every request. But even when God determines it is best to do otherwise, prayer gives us a sense of peace in the troubled seas of life.


Recently I read the story of a Christian brain surgeon who courageously began to offer to pray with his patients before their surgeries. He found that when they allowed him to pray, it usually produced remarkable calmness in both the patients and him. I highly recommend his book Gray Matter by David Levy—which you can order in my online bookstore here (under biography)


TWO: I Have Nothing to Complain About


Eddie Rickenbacker had a similar experience of lifeboat survival. In the book How to Stop Worrying and Start Living, Dale Carnegie wrote, “I once asked Eddie Rickenbacker what was the biggest lesson he had learned from drifting about with his companions in life rafts for twenty-one days, hopelessly lost in the Pacific. ‘The biggest lesson I learned from that experience,’ he said, ‘was that if you have all the fresh water you want to drink and all the food you want to eat, you ought never to complain about anything.’”


When I start to throw myself a pity party, I often remember the experiences of Eddie Rickenbacker and Eskild Alfred Eskildsen.


Click HERE if you missed Part 1 of this story.


In Part 3 I share the rest of Eskild’s remarkable survival story. Click HERE to read Part 3.


 

Part 3 | My Heroic Great Grandpa And The Pre-Titanic


My great grandpa had an authentic Danish name: Eskild Alfred Eskildsen.


My grandma holding my dad

In 1904, as he was attempting to immigrate to America, the SS Norge sank in the Atlantic. Only 20% of the 800 aboard survived. Eskild should have drowned, especially since he didn’t force his way into a lifeboat and instead helped others board them and don lifebelts.


Read his heroic story in Part 1 and Part 2 of this series.


Surviving in the lifeboat was no picnic! The 19 souls endured seven days with virtually no food and hydration.


Finally on the eighth day, July 6 1904, their prayers for rescue were answered. Lifeboat #4 was spotted by the schooner Olga Pauline. Weakened so severely from thirst and hunger, they were hardly able to board the rescue boat. Once aboard they scurried to the nearest water supply like wild animals.


The rescue ship Olga Pauline

They were taken to the Faroe Islands and later Eskild made it back home. It took about a month just to gain enough strength to travel home.


What would you do after such a harrowing experience? Would you never go near a ship again? I wonder if I would have nightmares the rest of my life about dying of starvation, dehydration or drowning.


My great grandpa was undaunted. The next year he boarded another ship headed for America with his wife Agnes and their seven children. The youngest was my grandma Cecilia—only 6 weeks old when they left.


This time the ship made it safely to New York City. Imagine how they felt as they passed the Statue of Liberty and arrived at Ellis Island. Certainly they felt relief and excitement. Yet they also must have felt fear and uncertainty in this strange land where they could not understand or speak the language.


Eventually they made it to Michigan and to Uncle Jens Sorensen who was their immigration sponsor.

There Eskild worked in logging camps and in the iron mines.

Uncle Jens Sorensen

Tragically, in 1920 Agnes died. My grandma, then in the sixth grade, had to quit school and take care of the younger children. What did Eskild do? He returned to Denmark and found a new Danish wife Anna, whom he brought back to the USA.


In 1924 they purchased a farm near Alvin, Wisconsin. But after five hard-working years, a fire destroyed all the buildings, machinery and livestock.


They returned to Michigan and rented another farm.


In 1937 Eskild died from acute appendicitis.


His family legacy included 22 children from two wives, one of them my grandma Cecilia. She gave birth to my father Claude Aaron Williams in 1926. He and mom brought me into the world in 1955.

My grandma holding my dad


Here are a couple more lessons I see from my heroic great grandpa’s story:


ONE: Put Fears Aside and Move Ahead


According to Dr. R. C. Sproul, Jesus’ number one prohibition is not, “Don’t lie,” or “don’t lust,” or some other commonplace sin. Instead, by far, Jesus’ number one warning is, “Don’t be afraid.”


Why might this be? Perhaps it’s because fear so often cripples us and prevents us from becoming all He wants us to become.


When paralyzed by fear we fail to reach the exciting new world God has for us.


Note to self: Overcome fear; get back in the boat and journey into the exciting future Jesus has in store for me.

TWO: Never Give Up


One of the phrases my dad (who died in 2011) shared with me often was from Winston Churchill; “Never give in–never, never, never, never!”

Thanks dad and great grandpa. What a valuable lesson you helped me apply—like when I wanted to quit playing the trombone in the 5th grade (a story for another blog).


Grandpa and grandma Cecilia with grandchildren (I’m the one by grandma with the blue tie)



  • Writer: Mark Alan Williams
    Mark Alan Williams
  • Aug 3, 2019
  • 4 min read


Insights on Marriage from 4 Decades of Experience


The day we’re releasing this blog, August 4, 2019, is Carolyn’s and my 40th wedding

anniversary. Of course, it’s hard to believe that many years have gone by. Over 40 years,

we’ve had quite a ride: we’ve welcomed 3 sons into the world, seen our parents grow

older and go to be with Jesus, experienced all kinds of ups & downs, started churches,

founded Discipleship Journeys with Jesus and walked side by side through it all.


Yep, that’s us 40 years ago.

Back in 2013 when we celebrated 34 years of marriage, I wrote about “How to Stay

Happily Married for 34 Years.” I stand by all I wrote then and am sharing it again below.


Here are five keys to a happy marriage from our experience:


One: Never Use the “D” word or the “S” Word.

Like every married couple, Carolyn and I have lived through some major

difficulties, both in our marriage and in other areas of life (jobs, leading churches, health, raising children, etc.). But as hard as things got, we have always kept our commitment to never consider or threaten each other with the “D” word: divorce, or even the “S” word: separate.


I recognize that in some marriages these are inescapable. But if more couples

were determined to avoid these two words and not even consider them, there

would be fewer divorces and separations. Our commitment has always been to

work things out, rather than even consider a bailout.


We’re grateful for the example of our parents who were married “til death do us part.”

Two: Laugh at Your Differences

This might sound impossible, but give it a try, it’s fun.


Carolyn and I are different in many ways. We have differences in thermostats,

cleanliness, tastes, recreational preferences, expressions of love, etc.


When we see things differently, we have choices to make: Will we be obstinate in

preferring our own way? Will we become irritated at what we think is our

spouse’s “irrational” thinking? Will we argue about which way is best?


As much as possible, we try to laugh at our differences.


When Carolyn says it’s cold, I laughingly agree and say “yep, it’s freezing” as I

wipe sweat from my forehead. We laugh together and move on.


When I share that it would be fun to go to a museum, we chuckle about how I can

spend endless hours in a museum reading all the exhibits and Carolyn can breeze

through in a brisk walk.


When Carolyn says we need to go shopping and I need to go with her, we laugh

about finding a chair in the clothing section where I can sit, work on my iPhone or

even take a nap.


After we smile at our differences, we quickly negotiate a win/win compromise

and move on.


Three: Avoid Marriage Busters


What are marriage busters? They are behaviors that might be legal but tend to

break marriages.


Here are some examples: flirting, pornography, overspending, Facebook

friendships with old flames, lunches alone with coworkers of the opposite sex,

sharing intimately with friends of the opposite sex.



Four: Refuse Anger, Sarcasm, Biting Words and Hurtful Jokes


Many use angry, sarcastic biting words with their spouse that they would never

use with a stranger. Their spouse becomes the butt of their jokes.


How bizarre that we treat those we love worse than a perfect stranger.


While I stated this key negatively, our goal should really be just the opposite. I

once heard of a husband whose goal was to give his spouse a different affirmation

every day of their marriage.`


Five: Have Fun Together


Perhaps you immediately think, “But we can’t afford to do fun things.” But I’m

not necessarily talking about expensive hobbies or fancy meals out. If you love

each other, fun can be inexpensive or even free:

  • We love to take walks together in the evening after work.

  • We enjoy cleaning the house together.

  • We have fun going to the warehouse store together.


See how much fun I had feeding Carolyn some wedding cake!

CONCLUSION:

That’s what I wrote six years ago, and I still believe these are important keys. If you want

some more keys, I wrote an additional post on “Five More Keys to Say Happily Married


If you have questions, please let me know through the Contact page on this website.


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  • Writer: Mark Alan Williams
    Mark Alan Williams
  • Jul 14, 2019
  • 5 min read

And I Pray Always Will!



Sadly, stories of ruined lives, ruined marriages and devastated testimonies litter the Christian landscape. Infidelities, financial improprieties, heavy-handed leadership,

addictions, abuse and other indiscretions have marred the testimonies of multitudes of

Christians, pastors, and other Christian leaders. This week I even heard about a prominent

Christian pastor accused of trying to find a contract killer to “take out” his ex-son-in-law.

Insanity!


Yet as the saying states, “But for the grace of God there go I!” I know I’m no more

righteous than any of the “failures” that litter the evangelical Christian landscape.


Yet I’ve escaped scandal. Why?


Let me share what I think keeps my sinful soul in check, and I hope always will!


Here are 3 things that keep the sinful me in check:


1. Jesus!


Sorry if you wanted something more novel or innovative. But He is the best I’ve got!


In fact, I owe it all to Him—whatever I may accomplish or avoid.


However, there is something that I believe many miss about Jesus and that is while He is

always there, we’re not always there with Him. To be specific, many Christians avoid

spending time with Jesus and therefore don’t allow Him to impact their lives on a daily

basis. Thus, they fall into temptations.


To be even more specific, the practice of spending time with God in prayer, thanksgiving,

Scripture, devotional reading, submission, and confession is the first priority of my day. OK, yes, I do shower first and put in my contact lenses so I can see. Then I get a cup

of tea or coffee.


But when I’m ready to start after my “routines,” my first order of business is time with

God. It’s not Facebook, Twitter, email, working out, reviewing my to do list or any of the

other common day-starters. Those are all fine and come later for me. The first thing,

however, is to rededicate myself to the Lord.


It’s not a legalistic thing, it’s just a priority and a practicality. If I don’t do some time

with God first, my day starts off on the wrong foot: I’m cynical, negative, lacking

Ultimate Direction, frustrated with myself and have other symptoms of a merely

perspective.


But in putting God first, I’m grateful, hopeful, faith-filled, refreshed, cleansed and ready

to face the challenges, excitements and temptations of a new day.


I understand some people are not morning people as I am. To you I would just say that if

it is not first thing in the morning, your priority of time with the Lord must be of highest

importance sometime in the day. Otherwise, you greatly increase your chances of going

off the rails.


2. Marriage!


Sexual allurements abound today, perhaps more than any other time, ever. With the

availability of the internet in most parts of the world and the easy access to pornography

in the privacy of your hiding spot, the statistics of how many men and women are hooked

on porn are staggering. This includes Christians.


The antidote, along with Jesus, is a happy and fulfilled marriage. That’s not my own

prescription, it’s the clear teaching of Scripture.


It’s better to marry than to burn with lust.” (1 Corinthians 7:9b NLT)


This summer Carolyn and I will celebrate our 40 th anniversary. We were married August

4, 1979. It’s been an awesome marriage run, thank God. And I’m looking forward to

much more. And one of the great blessings of our happy marriage is that we never have

to say, “I can’t get no satisfaction.” Satisfaction certainly helps ward off temptation.


I’m very grateful for this gift that helps keep me in check.


3. Guardrails!


There are other factors that have helped keep me in check, and one of the biggies is the

guardrails I’ve put around myself.


For example, marriage is a great help to stay godly, but only if I protect it with guardrails.


US Vice President Mike Pence has been severely criticized for adhering to the “Billy

Graham rule” of not spending time alone with a woman. Women have complained that

this puts them in an inferior position with someone of power like Pence. But the truth is

that it is a huge protection for women as well as the Vice President, Billy Graham, and all

who practice guardrails.


It’s ironic that in the midst of the “Me Too movement,” someone who completely avoids

the temptation to abuse women is criticized for doing so, instead of being appreciated.


Pence is an evangelical Christian, and is simply practicing biblical instructions to:


Abstain from all appearance of evil.” (1 Thessalonians 5:22 KJV)


Flee from youthful passions and pursue righteousness, faith, love, and peace, along with

those who call on the Lord out of a pure heart.” (2 Timothy 2:22 Berean Study Bible)


This is what I have tried to do, and it has been a safeguard to help keep the sinful me in

check. Carefully using guardrails shows the greatest respect to my marriage, to women I

come into contact with and to myself.


Other guardrails:

  • I don’t meet in a room with a woman if it doesn’t have a window.

  • I am careful about counseling a woman sharing her marriage frustrations.

  • On social media I post lots of photos of Carolyn and myself and make our marriage a prominent feature.

  • I talk a lot about Carolyn and our marriage.

If you don’t like my safety rails, that’s fine, just develop your own. Whatever works for

you. Just make sure they work!


Of course, I have guardrails in other areas of life and ministry:

  • I am accountable to a Board of Directors for our ministry.

  • Our Board meets in Executive Session without me present after every Board meeting, in case there are items they need to address without me present.

  • I don’t handle the funds donated to our ministry.

  • I avoid alcohol.

  • I don’t “check out” sinful practices or places so I become “street wise” or “informed” Christian leader.

  • I have an accountability partner who I can share about my temptations with and receive prayer.

  • I try to welcome and learn from criticism and concerns expressed about my behaviors if they come up.

CONCLUSION:

So those are the three biggies that help keep the sinful me in check.


Of course, my race isn’t over. The Evil One will continue to battle against my soul to try

to destroy my life, marriage, and reputation for Christ.


Stay alert! Watch out for your great enemy, the devil. He prowls around like a roaring

lion, looking for someone to devour.” (1 Peter 5:8 NLT)


You and I must always be on guard in this battle!


One more thing: If you are not sure that you have received God’s gift of salvation

through Jesus, learn about how to be positive HERE.


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